I wish my armpits weren't so ugly

Stephen Colbert is such a feminist ♥ And kudos to him for sticking it to Unilever even though Ben & Jerry's is one of his sponsors and named an ice cream flavor after him.

Hammers and nails and puppy dog tails

Having fairly tolerant and liberal-minded friends and going to school in Berkeley, I forget that I sometimes take things for granted. Like the fact that they world is full of assholes who use a J. Crew catalog featuring a five-year-old boy with pink toe nails as an excuse to write a diatribe on how the breaking down of gender roles is ruining our society.

Obviously, the whole article is bullshit, but there's one particular paragraph I wanted to pick apart:

The fallout is already being seen. Increasingly, girls show none of the reticence they once did to engage in early sexual relationships with boys.

Yeah, god forbid that girls who want to have sex go for it instead of acting like their virginity is the only thing that gives them value as a morally upstanding citizen.

That may be a good thing from the standpoint of gender equality, but it could be a bad thing since there is no longer the same typically “feminine” brake on such behavior.

So it has always been (and should always be) up to women to stop such "behavior"? Does that mean men are completely incapable of controlling their baser desires when necessary? How insulting to men. And people try to argue that feminists hate men.

Girls beat up other girls on YouTube.

But if it were boys beating up other boys, that would be TOTALLY FINE. Because violence is cool so long as it's to prove your masculinity.

Young men primp and preen until their abdomens are washboards and their hair is perfect.

But it's okay if girls primp and preen and have perfect hair, because all women are vapid and shallow.

And while that may seem like no big deal, it will be a very big deal if it turns out that neither gender is very comfortable anymore nurturing children above all else, and neither gender is motivated to rank creating a family above having great sex forever and neither gender is motivated to protect the nation by marching into combat against other men and risking their lives.

This just makes so much sense. Because only women can be nurturing enough raise children and only men have enough cojones to go into battle to defend their country. And if people who don't fulfill traditional gender roles will never, ever want to give up having great sex forever to have a family, then why are conservatives so afraid of gay marriage and adoption? (And why does having a family have to mean no more great sex? I mean, I understand that kids can be a bit of a disruption but still.* Also, I think Ablow just implied that people not conforming to gender roles have great sex. Yeeeeeah boi. Okay, I'll stop that.)

Who cares if a little boy decides his favourite color is hot pink? He has every right to do whatever the fuck he wants if his mom decides to let him. If he is straight, wanting to paint his toe nails won't change that. If he is gay, his mom not letting him paint his toe nails wouldn't change that. Your obedience or disobedience to various gender roles doesn't affect your sexuality, your abilities or your ambitions in life. For instance, here are some of the ways I don't conform to traditional gender roles:

-I am loud
-I am not afraid to interrupt people
-I hate talking about my feelings
-I don't fall in love with every guy I have sex with

Okay, so these are kinda shitty examples. But just because I don't follow these particular gender roles doesn't change my identity: female, cisgender, (mostly) heterosexual, loud, opinionated, ambitious, etc. I still am who I am. And this little kid will still be who he is, with or without hot pink toenails. God fucking forbid we let people be who they want to be, especially since it will literally affect nothing but their own happiness.

*Also, I think Keith Ablow just gave away more about his sex life than he intended.

She really makes me feel like I might be a good person

[Catherine]
23:18
idk if id mentioned this yet i thnk i have but like you being there fucking saveddd me
i dont know what i wouldve done if you werent in oaxaca with me
so thank you

[You]
23:19
i know man
i think about that too
because at first I was like, wow, this is weird, cash and tara are kinda shitty to go out with
cause they got bfs
and i was like maybe i shouldn't have come
but then that shit went down
and i was so glad i did

[Catherine]
23:19
nahh like
it was so great having youthere

[You]
23:20
because i hated to think what would've happened if i hadn't been there

[Catherine]
23:20
having like a woman stronger than me that was around
fucking helped like crazy

[You]
23:20
oh mujer

[Catherine]
23:20
you have no idea

[You]
23:20
that's like the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me
i'm glad I am of use
and presumably a good friend
i hope

[Catherine]
23:21
pshh trust me
im used to always being like the strong friend but when i wasnt for once
you were there
and i owe you big time girly

[You]
23:22
awwwwww <3
te amo nena

[Catherine]
23:22
yo tambien te amooo

I Want You, But I Don't Need You

This song pretty much describes how I approach all my relationships.I'm overly independent and afraid of admitting that I need something I can't have.

Someday I will be a emotionally secure human being, I promise myself. Someday.

Viva Libya

Apparently, Justin Bieber's haircut is trending on Twitter* while Gaddafi is murdering Libyan protesters. WTF Internet! Get your shit together.




*I don't actually understand what half those words mean, because I don't have a twitter but I'll take people's word that this is true.

Conducive study materials

My playlist for writing tomorrow's Spanish presentation:

"Forgot About Dre", Dr. Dre ft. Eminem
"La Camisa Negra", Juanes
"United State of Pop 2010 (Don't Stop the Pop)", DJ Earworm
"99 Problems", Jay-Z
"The Anthem", Pitbull
"Butterfly", Crazy Town


You know, weighty academic stuff. Helps you focus.

Busy bee

Just when I think I've had a semester where I out-busied myself and couldn't possibly out-busy myself any more the next semester, I go and raise the bar. This semester I have four classes, tutoring 5 hours a week, a 6 hour/week research apprenticeship, a director position in an organization that fancies itself 'professional', and an Overnight Stay Program that starts in April, which means all the frantic planning is starting now.

Why do I do this to myself?